Sunday Service: “Guilt, Divorce and Loneliness”
Jan 30 @ 10:30 am – 11:45 am
Sunday Service: "Guilt, Divorce and Loneliness"
“You may not control all the events that happen to you,
but you can decide 
not to be decided by them
Maya Angelou 
This Sunday, January 30th, is the final Sunday of Mental Health January. The focus of the service is: Guilt, Divorce, and Loneliness. Michelle McHale, Glen Smith, Lisa Quinlan, and Rev. Jim McConnell will share their strategies for dealing with these emotionally difficult parts of being human beings.
Additionally, Rev. Jim will share a Story for All Ages about kids and divorce, and Beth La Fleur will have more great music for us.
Join on Zoom.
Once again, there will be no RE lesson over Zoom. However, be sure to attend the Sunday Sledding Adventure at Harvey Johnson’s house from 1-4pm. There will be sledding, snow games, and a bonfire with hot cocoa!
Circle Talk
Jan 30 @ 12:00 pm – 12:30 pm
Sunday Sledding Adventure @ Johnson Residence
Jan 30 @ 1:00 pm – 4:00 pm
Sunday Sledding Adventure @ Johnson Residence | St. Joseph | Michigan | United States

We have the snow. We have the cold. Now we just need the place…


BUUF’s President Harvey Johnson has kindly offered to host BUUFers in his large, snowy backyard on Sunday, January 30th from 1-4 PM. Instead of getting together over Zoom for RE lessons, we thought children might prefer to gather outside for some fun!


RE kids and their parents can take turns sledding down Harvey’s groomed sledding trail into the ravine. Or they can hang out by the bonfire and drink hot cocoa. Or join Harvey on a nature tour of the ravine in winter. There will also be other snow games to play…like making snow angels, building a fort and making colored ice balls using balloons.


All BUUFers are invited to join this event, and we especially hope our RE children will use this opportunity to intermingle and build stronger friendships. Feel free to drop in anytime between 1 and 4 pm.


Harvey’s address:

1920 Sunset Court
St. Joseph MI

BH Soup Kitchen
Feb 5 @ 9:00 am – 1:00 pm

BUUFers prepare and serve lunch at the Benton Harbor Soup Kitchen.

Prepare and Serve Lunch at Benton Harbor Soup Kitchen @ Benton Harbor Soup Kitchen
Feb 5 @ 9:00 am – 1:00 pm

Berrien UU  Fellowship serves lunch at the Benton Harbor Soup Kitchen the first Saturday of every even-numbered month (February, April, June, August, October and December). Berrien UU volunteers prepare the meal, greet guests and help clean up the kitchen. This is a terrific opportunity to serve the greater community, support our Social Justice mission and enjoy the company of fellow BUUFers and guests at the kitchen. Rev. Jim McConnell generously leads the group in planning the meal and dessert and he will gladly find a role for all volunteers, whether they’ve helped dozens of times or this is their first time. Please consider coming to the Soup Kitchen to help, even if it’s only for an hour or two.

The Soup Kitchen is located at 233 Michigan Street in Benton Harbor.

Sunday Service: “Ethical Living” @ Berrien Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Feb 6 @ 10:30 am – 11:45 am

The month of February is dedicated to understanding our proposed 8th UU Principle: The 8th Principle affirms and promotes journeying toward spiritual wholeness by working to build a diverse, multicultural Beloved Community by our actions that accountably dismantle racism and other oppressions in ourselves and our institutions.  The focus for this Sunday is Ethical Living. Beth La Fleur, in addition to having some great music, will introduce us to the 8th principle and, because it is an intergenerational Sunday, the young ones of the church will help us struggle with some ethical issues. It is a hybrid service so you can come in person or join on Zoom.

Perspective #1: PRO by QUUF member, Cecilia Flickinger

As a person of color and a member of QUUF’s 8th Principle Task Force, I am excited about the possibility of adding the 8th Principle. Why? Because it is an invitation to elevate our consciousness about racism in ourselves and our denomination.

Although our Constitution asserts the ideal that all people are created equal, we have fallen woefully short of matching that ideal. We created an economy based on slavery. We legalized segregation with Jim Crow laws. Hate crimes have always been a part of our legacy – even now. There are still systems that bar people of color from having equitable access to healthcare, education, voting, housing, finance and justice.

Our current UU principles, like our constitution, state our ideals.  And while our 1st Principle affirms the inherent worth and dignity of every person, sometimes we fall short. What I like about the 8th Principle is that it specifically names not just our ideals but also our actions and the need for accountability. This will help our denomination grow and guide us in evolving consciousness around race.

Becoming more diverse, equitable, and inclusive is a spiritual journey. Some of us are already ready to help dismantle racism at the systemic level. Others are willing to help other travelers to our destination. Others still are stuck. Wherever we are in our journey; we’re each valued and welcome. That is the spirit of Beloved Community.

Beloved Community is described by politician John Lewis “as a nation and world society at peace with itself.” Beloved community, described by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., is a community NOT continually living with bitterness and friction. Beloved community is the fulfillment of our country’s promise of life, liberty, justice and equal protection under the law.

Perspective #2: CON by QUUF member, Rod Mitchell

I am concerned with the movement to adopt the eighth principle and have two reasons for my concern.

First, it is not a principle and is already covered by our present seven very well expressed principles. The proposed eighth is redundant and structurally more like a mission. Its action certainly deserves attention and action on the part of our community, but it is not a principle.

Secondly, if it were raised to the level of a principle it would be discriminatory. Our seven principles challenge us individually and as a community to address the injustices and threats embedded in our society and worldwide.

Certainly racial inequality is high on my list, but so are the rights of LBGTQ+ and women, substance abuse, homelessness, and global warming. I am sure we all have our lists. We need soldiers, processes, and passion in all these areas; and to elevate one mission above the others is to create an imbalance that does not give equal power to all of our concerns in our attempt to fulfill the moral charges of our current seven principles. The eighth principle is the wrong solution for a real problem.

Circle Talk
Feb 6 @ 12:00 pm – 12:30 pm
Small Group Ministry: “Widening the Circle”
Feb 7 @ 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Small Group Ministry: "Widening the Circle"
Our second round of Small Group Ministry takes place in February. The theme for February is “Widening the Circle,” and all BUUFers are welcome to join one of the two Chalice Circles:
  • The first Chalice Circle meets on the first Monday of the month from 6-8pm, in person when possible.
  • The second Chalice Circle meets the third Tuesday of the month from 1-3pm over Zoom.
Groups met for the first time in January and enjoyed rich discussions on the topic of “Intention.” There is still room for 2-4 members in each Chalice Circle. Groups will vote on when to close the circle to new members.
Participants are encouraged to review the Discussion Guide prior to the meeting and and reflect on the readings and questions. To access the monthly packet for February, follow this link and click on “Widening the Circle Discussion Guide Feb 2022” to download the packet.
Unlike other discussion groups, in Chalice Circles we do not engage in cross-talk or debate particular points of view. Instead, we each share our reflections and honor one another through focused listening. More details on this unique discussion approach can be found in the Participant Guide.
If you’d like to get to know your fellow BUUFers better in a more informal environment, build connections and explore your spirituality, Small Group Ministry is a great opportunity to do so. You will be encouraged to attend the same discussion group monthly so that deep connections can be formed. Please contact Interim DRE Joanne Krettek with any questions or suggestions: dre@berrienuu.org.
Sunday Service: “Expanding the Circle” @ Berrien Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Feb 13 @ 10:30 am – 11:45 am
Sunday Service: "Expanding the Circle" @ Berrien Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

This Sunday, February 8th we continue with our Monthly theme of: Introducing the Proposed 8th UU Principle. The Focus of the service will be Expanding the Circle, which means acquiring a mature understanding of systemic injustice and working to make a better society. Lisa Fuller, Chair of the Sunday Services team, will talk about the social dimension of making a just society and Rev. Jim McConnell will talk about the spiritual aspect of that work. Additionally, Joanne Krettek has a great Story for All Ages, Nan Lundeen will bring an original poem, and Beth La Fleur and Candace Onweller have some more really great music. And that’s not all…

Tina Eberly will be teaching RE children about Whitney Young, an influential Civil Rights Leader and Unitarian Universalist. In addition, since it’s so close to Valentine’s Day, BUUF’s Ethical Eating Group is planning a “love treat” (a small bag of vegetarian goodies) for BUUFers to take home and enjoy. Also, BUUF President Harvey Johnson plans to give every child who attends the service in person a bar of delicious “fair trade” chocolate. This is a service you won’t want to miss!

Join us on Zoom or in person.

Circle Talk
Feb 13 @ 12:00 pm – 12:30 pm